Holding on to all the things that this person or that person did to you only hurts YOU – not them! It makes YOUR life miserable – not theirs! So while you complain to everyone who will listen, feeding your bitterness and denying yourself peace, those who ‘wronged’ you don’t even think about you – at all!
There’s a reason it’s called ‘making peace with your past’. You owe it to yourself to let your wounds heal. Ripping off the bandages before fully healing just so you can bemoan the hurt and pain that you’ve endured is not healthy. You have to take responsibility for your life and where you are at this present moment.
I know it’s tempting to replay scenes from your past and envision a different outcome: “if only I had/hadn’t done that” or “if they had/hadn’t done that, I’d be much better off”. But that’s the past and you can’t change it so these kinds of if/then statements don’t help you now. However, you can help yourself by taking responsibility for your life and the part you had to play in your experiences – whether good or bad.
Your hands are bleeding from holding on to the hurt so hard and so long. Your shoulders hurt from dragging around excess baggage everywhere you go. That scowl from fighting to hang on has left permanent lines on your face. Life is passing you by because you’ve been stuck in a world of misery, and you won’t break free unless you let it go.
Just let it go.